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“Is this cool?” and the importance of context

Posted by vikas on Jun 30th, 2008

Last week I went to the Attic with the guys from Ignighter and Ben from Devver. Ben told us the story of his friend who was talking to a girl he liked at a party in college. Apparently, at some point there was an awkward lull in the conversation. Instead of trying to fill the void by bringing up an interesting subject, Ben's friend pointed his thumbs behind him in a vague direction and asked the girl, "Is this cool?" I'm don't know exactly what happened after this, but it probably didn't involve an exchange of phone numbers.

We started talking about the question "Is this cool?" and we realized that the meaning varies greatly based on the context of what you're doing with your hands and body while asking the question. Here are all the possibilities we came up with (the red arrows indicate hand/body movement):

Figure 1

In Figure 1, modeled after what Ben's friend did, the asker's hands are moving around in a vague circle. The asker is checking whether the situation around the himself and the askee (a party, a funeral, a ballgame,etc) is cool.

Figure 2

The asker in Figure 2 is either checking if the drink he is consuming is considered cool, or he's wondering whether it's cool that he got another drink on your tab even though you told him he's cut off.

Figure 3

If an unfortunate confrontation has occurred and a verbal exchange has seemingly ended, one can use "is this cool?" accompanied by the body and hand movement shown in Figure 3 to certify that the situation has been resolved. It's important to note, however, that this will only work if the asker is reasonably bigger and stronger than the askee.

Figure 4

Asking, "is this cool?" in a normal, relaxed voice accompanied by the back and forth hand gesture shown in Figure 4 means that the asker is romantically interested in the askee and is wondering if the situation between them is cool. Asking, "is this cool?" with the same gesture but with a lowered, more intense voice means the asker is interested in going with the askee to her or his place for the night.